Genuinely don’t get why we’re always beefing with r/donorconceived

Sorry in advance—I’m not trying to turn this sub into a constant dialogue about the DC thing, but I really don’t get the issue here. My understanding is, the DC community’s perspective (generally speaking) is: 1. Don’t use a fully anon donor (use open-ID at least); 2. Tell your kids early and often (before age three); 3. Be prepared for complicated feelings re: sibling pods and not knowing who they got 50% of their DNA from; 4. Connect with donor siblings when possible; 5. The industry sucks and should be better regulated, the family limits should be lower, and DCP should have better access to medical records.

As individual RPs, we can’t do anything about #5. But 99% of people on this sub are doing 1-4. Given the struggles LGBT people face, I feel most of us really are trying to use DC as ethically as possible to ease our future kids’ concerns. So as long as that’s the case, DC is fine, right? Where is the hostility and miscommunication coming from? What am I missing? Aren’t we doing exactly what DCP want?