New marriage. No intimacy, No emotional connection. Living like roommates.

It’s been more than a year after getting married. We sleep on the same bed and live together but never had any kind of intimacy. I am a straight woman and I crave physical intimacy. Whenever I tried getting close to my husband he would simply give me hug, or a kiss and then avoid doing anything further. He moves my hands away when I try to touch him down there. I asked him directly and he always postpones it giving stress, office work or some random reasons. Despite knowing very well that I might leave him because of this reason, he makes no attempts on being intimate.

Apart from this, he cannot connect with me on an emotional level. I cannot discuss my life with him as it bores him. Otherwise he is supportive, doesn’t stop me from pursuing anything and I am free to do what I like.

My husband is not interested in therapy and tells me that he has no medical issues and can engage in sex if it is for a baby. Although I have personally observed his disinterest in sex. He can’t even enjoy a kiss, he kisses with eyes open I can almost see it’s just a performance. Even if I roam around him only wearing a bra and panty, it doesn’t affect him. He has never masturbated in life and doesn’t watch porn. He has never been in any relationship. I am the first girl in his life. He doesn’t want to touch me or undress me. We haven’t been naked even once after marriage. And he is not a gay, I am sure and I have confronted him on this too. He tells me he is straight. Everything points to only one thing that is him being asexual. My in laws tell me to force a sexual connection which I am totally against. I am not an animal. I want to be desired by my husband sexually and emotionally. I want to have kids and build a family together but only with natural love and affection not forcing sex out of my husband. Just having sex is not the goal. I want to be loved. Are my expectations wrong? I have given enough time, had communication, what else can I do. Do you think this marriage can sustain. Both sides of the family are silent on the issue. They are happy and my husband is happy. It’s like I am the only one unhappy and creating a ruckus. What would you have done if you were in my place?