I declined to attend a wedding of a relative

I called up the bride to be to talk about her upcoming wedding. I had moved across the world some time before and wanted to chat and bond about the dress I planned to wear and offer to pay for her bouquet.

Brides responses: "The only dresses you have that are elegant enough are black, but I won't allow you to wear black to my wedding" (odd since she had borrowed one to wear to our cousin's wedding a couple of years prior)

"We already have everything booked. But you can pay for our wedding rings" (I declined since typically the couple bonds, shops, and pays for them themselves. She insisted that my opinion was old fashioned)

Lucky for me, the pandemic hit. My husband and I got a refund for our flights. We logged on to the online city hall ceremony.

When lock downs were over, she called to ask if I'd come to the new wedding date. While still on the phone, I happily declined and booked a flight to Italy on the same date 😉 "oh bummer, I already have plans"

$2000 flights back home + wedding gift + new dress + audacity to ask to fund wedding bands = RSVP no from me

(I later heard from Papa Bear that tantrums were thrown that contracts couldn't be canceled. Apparently, not everything was paid for after all. The engagement ring was crooked and had an odd gap, as if the diamond schrunk and moved to one side? The groom is a nice guy, but I think it might have been from a pawn shop)