Including my mom in my wedding planning

Hiii, I recently got engaged and started wedding planning. My fiancé and I have one rule and one rule only in this whole process: we can ask for opinions but the final decisions are ours to make. Long story short my mom is a very difficult person and every single time I’ve tried letting her in our plans and progress she somehow finds something wrong or has hurtful things to say (I still live with her). On the other hand, my fiancés mom is amazing, we have the greatest relationship ever since we met and has ask me for updates bc she is just as excited as we are. I guess my question is how do i include my mom in this without compromising my mental health?? I honestly feel like she wants to have the wedding she never had through mine and i do realize that is a problem and very selfish from her but at the same time I want her to be a part of this bc I feel that if i dont I’m going to regret it in a few years :(