Friends think I am Asexual
My friends think I am asexual/aromantic because I have never had a boyfriend or done anything romantic. They assume because I don’t talk about men, crushes, or sex that I am completely against dating anyone. I haven’t dated because I am ugly and terrified of being rejected or used. I’ve never had the opportunity of experiencing anything romantic, not because ‘I am asexual’, but because I am so ugly. I also don’t talk about those kinds of things because I am embarrassed about it and I feel it’s inappropriate and isn’t any of my friends’ business anyways (Especially the sex part!). I have my reasons for not dating and not talking about it. It just hurts having to explain to my friends that I am not asexual and seeing their shocked faces. It feels so cruel and invasive that my friends want to know so much about my dating life then label me as something that I’m not. I hate being reminded that I am so unlovable, my friends have to make excuses/assumptions as to why I can’t date. I know if I ever get the chance to experience something romantic, my friends will turn it into how shocked they are that I’m not aromantic, even though I’ve said I’m not countless times. It’s like they don’t even believe me.
Edit: They have also assumed that I am a lesbian before because I have masculine features (Stereotypes much?). They don’t ask me about this as much, but I’m sure they think I am either asexual or a closeted lesbian. I feel so uncomfortable about people, even my closest friends, questioning my sexuality and not believing me.
Edit 2: I hope this post doesn’t come off in any way as hate towards LGBTQ+. I may not identify as LGBTQ+ but I fully support the community and movements. I just wanted to rant about how my friends are making assumptions about me based on mean/harmful stereotypes.