Triggered one year out

I’m a year out from my TFMR (skeletal dysplasia, incompatible with life) and am globally in a much better place then I was the first two months after the loss. This sub has been one of the biggest supports and I regularly appreciate everyone sharing their stories and experiences.

Yesterday, one of my friends who has shared her fertility struggles with me sent our group chat an ultrasound photo to let us know she’s pregnant and past the 12 week mark. I was absolutely devestated when I got the photo. Because we had shared our experiences with loss and fertility, and our frustrations when other friends complained about pregnancy, that she would get that doing something like this would be so upsetting. On the other hand, I feel childish — why can’t she share and express her joy with our friends and me? Shouldn’t I be over this loss after 1 year of 1:1 therapy and couples therapy with my husband?

With this post, I’m hoping that I can just hear how you deal with these feelings so far out from the termination. Like other than a good cry is there anything else that brings you comfort? And how do you deal with your friends — I feel like I can’t say anything because I feel like people think I should “be over it.” My husband is very supportive and is always really comforting to talk to about these things but just hoping to hear from others who have also gone through this.