When did you start trying?

I had a TFMR this June at 27 weeks- and as you are all familiar with, it was one of the most emotionally painful experiences I’ve ever faced. Most days I’m doing okay, but some days are harder than others.

It’s been 4 months since losing our son and we’re having conversations about when to try again. However, I’m really struggling with the idea of it all. My husband and I keep going back and forth between waiting and just going for it. It was our first pregnancy and I can’t escape the idea that something will go wrong again. We have no positive experience to compare it to. I don’t want to build up walls, but the idea of physically being pregnant makes my chest tighten. Will that ever go away? Or is it just something you have to face head on?

How did you know you were ready to try again? Or did you just go for it and work through the nerves day by day? HELPPPP