SO found very hurtful texts on SD11s iPad

She recently started “dating” a boy. When SD is here (EOWE, she refuses to come for the weekly visit), she texts/calls/FaceTimes him 24/7. Her iPad normally stays here. At BMs, she’s apparently talking to him on their house phone until 5 am.

The boys mom texts my SO today to question if he’s monitoring their conversation because she felt it is getting “too deep.” We get on her iPad, and it’s nonstop texting about how much they love each other, yada yada. They are 11. Come on.

But my SO saw other things. SD told her boyfriend that her dad hits her, hit SS, and was screaming at our BD4 (he has never and would never lay a hand on them so this was just absolutely insane to read. We believe she was fishing for her boyfriend to say he would protect her). She was making fun of SO and his weight. She was texting her other sister at BMs that her dad “lost her love” a long time ago and now he has to “buy it back.” She was bragging about how he’s buying her Uggs for her birthday coming up and how she is basically using him to get expensive gifts. She called her stepdad her “good dad” because he bought her Air Force 1’s for Christmas.

My SO is extremely hurt. He’s taking her iPad away and will be talking with her, obviously.

The thing is, I saw this coming from a mile away. She has always been sooo manipulative but he never saw it/always denied it. There’s no denying it now…