Soft Doms & Period Care – Seeking Comfort Without Crossing Boundaries?

Hey everyone, I’m curious about how soft doms navigate care and attention when their female sub is on her period. Personally, I don’t engage in anything sexual during that time—I’m too tired and in pain—but I still crave the comfort, praise, and attention from my dom because of the emotional connection we share.

However, I’ve noticed that many doms I’ve been with tend to ignore me during this time or come up with excuses like being busy. When I’ve expressed how this makes me feel—like I’m only valued for sexual or BDSM interactions—they’ve told me that this level of emotional support is something I can only expect from a romantic partner. Is that really the case?

Some of these doms also claim they want to be friends and do fun things together, but when I actually try to make plans (yes, I take the initiative despite being the sub because I’ve never seen a dom suggest non-sexual hangouts, which is something I dislike), they’re suddenly unavailable. This is especially frustrating because my period is the perfect time for non-sexual bonding—3 to 7 days where intimacy can be about connection rather than physicality. Despite having bad experiences with doms in general, even the ones who seemed kind still followed this same pattern.

Am I expecting too much by wanting to spend time with them in a non-sexual way? I don’t have romantic feelings for them—it’s just about seeking comfort and connection.

For those in the soft dom community, how do you handle this? Do you think my expectations are unreasonable? I’d love to hear your thoughts!