Does anyone else feel like they don’t belong in this community? I also posted in the SofterBDSM group. So apologies if this post overlaps:

Hey everyone!

I am a first time poster and enjoy this group as well as the other soft dom group from afar. I’m feeling a bit conflicted and would love some advice.

I’m absolutely a sub. I know I am. But I don’t know what kind of sub I am. Maybe it is because I am not very sexually experienced and am a bit overwhelmed by it all I’m not too sure. I feel like I would fall under the soft/pleasure dom category, but I’m not even sure about that anymore.

I don’t like degradation, denial, forced orgasms, pulling my hair too hard, punishments and feel like I would find overstimulation too much because I’m pretty sensitive after orgasming once. And that’s just by myself.

But I love someone else taking control, telling me what to do, gently pinning me down, lightly spanking and someone who is quite possessive in the bedroom.

Sorry for all of the information, I just wanted to try and give everyone a bit of an insight.

So what do you guys think? Am I just a vanilla girl who likes to be submissive? Or, are there doms out there who might one day match what I am into?

Thank you so much 🙏