If you give too much of yourself to people they start taking it and you for granted.

Imagine if you could snap your fingers and here comes the money$$$. Fame would become boring really fast.

If you give too much attention to someone, like way more than they give to you then there will come a point where talking to you isn’t a highlight of their day

“Hey,it’s Mike!”

“Oh it’s Mike”

There will come a point where talking to you is more of a chore or something that has become more of a “routine” than a pleasure or a privilege.

Same thing if you’re helping someone out or giving your time to that person. If you show them that you’re always, easily available at a certain point they will start to think of you as “that guy who helps me with stuff” rather than a friend, they will put much more value on what you can bring to them. If they show you they genuinely care about you for reasons other than the help you’re bringing them then good. If you show them that you’re not always available and not scared to say no but they’re still around good.

And last but probably not least try to be reciprocal with people.

Of course it doesn’t mean that you always have to expect things in return from people, of course it doesn’t mean you can’t help people just because you care about them and that’s it, but it means you gotta stay on your guards. Some people are naturally more caring, more kind hearted than some people, so are willing to give more naturally and that’s okay.

But if you’re always and quickly as possible here for someone, replying to their messages as soon as they’re sentbut they leave you on read most of the time. When it’s your turn to ask something from that person and you notice it’s WAY harder for that person to be there when you need her, even if it’s only because you want some of their attention but you gotta blow up the moon to get their attention then don’t be afraid to either stop giving or at least tone it down a little bit. It's not always if they’re more busy or not because if they can give you a little bit of their time, they will. Take more time to reply to their messages, make yourself intentionally more busy but don’t be their b*tch I apologize, but i truly had to say it.

A relationship where you give 79% and they give
21% is never healthy it just sucks.

It doesn’t always have to be 50/50 but it certainly doesn’t have to be a relationship where you give way more of yourself than they do.

So what you gotta remember from this post is

That you shouldn’t always give too much of your time to people especially if they don’t give as much as you do which is okay if you think that person’s worth it once again but you DON’T have to. Some people will take advantage of you intentionally and unintentionally.

Get a life, seriously. I’m not saying this to be disrespectful, but focus on yourself, learn how to respect and treat yourself. Make yourself a busy person anytime you want. And don’t be afraid to become a little bit more selfish you won’t go to hell from it , but chill out and watch out who you’re here for. Don’t ever feel like you need to do something for people in order for them to like you, EVER.