I asked a girl out today

I asked a young woman out today

She works at a business I frequent. I’ve seen her there for a few months now and she has always been nice, saying hi to me even when I would have just walked past her. I finally got the courage to ask her out.

I saw her and knew it was now or never. I was super nervous but not shaking or anything. I walked up to her and said; “excuse me”

She was like “yes hi :)”

I was like “uhm I’ve seen you here often and wanted to know if you’d wanna get coffee sometime”

“I have a boyfriend unfortunately” she says

“Oh. Shit.” I I say back looking away

She replies “it was nice meeting you”

I retorted“it was nice meeting you”

I wish I hadn’t of said shit after she said that she had a boyfriend. I should have said something more polite. I consider myself well mannered. I was sad to hear that but at least I knew.

I’m close to 30. I haven’t asked a girl out since I was 19 when a bunch of friends encouraged me and organized (basically) to ask a girl out i knew from high school. Since then I’ve been super lonely. I have no friends.

Overall, it was awkward, but I’m glad I took it upon myself to actually do it and not be wishing for the rest of my life I had. To change my situation and take action.

Some say it’s bad to ask out someone who is at work because they are stuck there and they might feel trapped. Or you might see them again. If my world wasn’t so small I’d agree but I was (am) super interested in her and had to do it.

Kind of feel ashamed for mistaking her kindness for potential romantic interest too.