Different take on this scene

I know that the conclusion of Miranda’s arc was meant to be empowering, if not bittersweet, but I felt it actually undermined what Miranda was all about. I understand that this is supposed to be Miranda opening up to allow unconditional love into her life, but I feel that what this scene actually does is perpetuate the stereotype that a woman's path to empowerment, happiness or fulfilment is ultimately achieved through self-sacrifice and caregiving roles, reinforcing the notion that a woman’s value is predominantly defined by her willingness to prioritise the needs of others over her own aspirations and independence. She did, after all, move to Brooklyn for Steve, a man who already had trouble dealing with Miranda’s independence.

Of course I understand that it’s normal and human to help and care for loved ones, and I would never criticise someone whose happiness and self-worth came from taking care of others. But when Magda says “that is love…you love”, I just don’t feel the way I think the scene wanted me to feel. The message I got was that women are only capable of true happiness when we sublimate our sense of self for the sake of others.

Anyone else feel this way? I don’t want to take away the joy that people get from this scene, but I just come away with a completely different impression.

I know that the conclusion of Miranda’s arc was meant to be empowering, if not bittersweet, but I felt it actually undermined what Miranda was all about. I understand that this is supposed to be Miranda opening up to allow unconditional love into her life, but I feel that what this scene actually does is perpetuate the stereotype that a woman's path to empowerment, happiness or fulfilment is ultimately achieved through self-sacrifice and caregiving roles, reinforcing the notion that a woman’s value is predominantly defined by her willingness to prioritise the needs of others over her own aspirations and independence. She did, after all, move to Brooklyn for Steve, a man who already had trouble dealing with Miranda’s independence.

Of course I understand that it’s normal and human to help and care for loved ones, and I would never criticise someone whose happiness and self-worth came from taking care of others. But when Magda says “that is love…you love”, I just don’t feel the way I think the scene wanted me to feel. The message I got was that women are only capable of true happiness when we sublimate our sense of self for the sake of others.

Anyone else feel this way? I don’t want to take away the joy that people get from this scene, but I just come away with a completely different impression.