Do authors know they can write strong independent heroines without making them a total bitch?

I’m getting tired of this troupe of “im a strong independent woman and i treat everybody like shit and i cuss every 10 seconds”. Yeah it’s great and fun but they start getting so bland when every romantasy i read with a strong fmc is them being feisty. You can make a strong and independent heroine while also being kind and not vulgar.

Not saying there’s anything wrong with heroines that are depicted as vulgar since I eat it up anyway, but holy shit can we have some variety 😭. I either get heroine that’s strong but a bitch or a heroine that’s gentle, timid, and gets rescued by ML every 5 seconds.