Dating at 29 feels like a job interview

  • "If you don't mind me asking, how's your credit history"
  • "You don't have to give me the specifics, but what range does your salary fall under"
  • "When are you planning on having kids"
  • "How are you with children" ; leads into revealing they have kids
  • "Why do you still live in a condo? Is a house not in the budget?"

Like can y'all chill for a bit? These are just 5 of the many questions I've been asked on first and second dates in the past year. Seems like far more focus is being put on what I can provide materially rather than trying to spark a connection.

I get that women my age can't afford to waste their time on bum dudes but can we at least save all that talk until a couple of weeks in? And age is another conundrum I run into. 21-24 are more chill and when they find out I'm a pilot, they're more interested in the job than salary. But I find it hard to relate Zoomer women so it never works out past the 3rd date. Otoh, I relate more to 27-30 but they're the ones bait and switching dates with Google job interviews. Doesn't feel genuine

It doesn't feel like people are trying to find love at this point