Were you not allowed to pursue anything?
Growing up, I wasn’t allowed to join anything. Not sports teams, not groups, not activities. Nothing to do with socialization or developing skills or talents. It’s like my parents didn’t want me to become a person.
They also made zero effort to arrange play dates or to make sure that I had friends. They would never ask me who my friends were or know anything about them. My parents would not connect with other parents, either.
Once I hit my teens I was allowed to work, but I think it was only because my mother didn’t want to have to pay for anything for me. Better if I had my own money.
Did anyone else experience this?