Am I the narcissist?

Ive noticed when people in my family scream at me and cry, I stay calm. Usually it’s something they did to wrong me and when I try to bring it to light and they start screaming at me then flip it and give me a sob story. I mean this person was screaming at me, turning red in the face, why would someone do that to their voice if they weren’t telling the truth? But I don’t feel like they were telling the truth. I don’t feel bad for them. Their emotions don’t match their words to me. It feels off. But am I wrong? What if they are really hurting. Idk.

I feel like I’ve been manipulated so much I can’t give in to people being emotional sometimes. So if I’m lacking empathy for them does that make me a narcissist? A family member just went full blown hulk on me. Screaming and threw some keys at me. I definitely called them psycho so that probably did it for the keys. I didn’t ask them to clam down, but I was hoping they would so they could talk to me in the same volume I was talking to them. Ugh. This is hard. Also I might be on the spectrum. Not sure if I shut down or what. I need therapy.