Dating as a poor 30 YO female

Hello everyone,

I’m going through a pretty rough breakup right now, and I can’t help but feel like he broke up with me because I’m poor.

We had been dating for about 6 months, and he knew I was a grad student barely making a living wage. This was the first time I invited him over to my little studio, and he refused to even stay the night—even though I had stayed over at his place multiple times.

While he was there, he also asked me, "What’s your plan?" I wasn’t sure what he meant, but I explained my career plans. Based on the look on his face, I could tell he didn’t like my answer. He also made a comment like, "Oh, you’ll probably make 300k when you graduate."

A week after his visit, we had a conversation, and he told me he didn’t see us working out long-term.

This situation makes me feel awful because, in my previous relationship, my ex wasn’t kind about my financial situation either—he even openly complained that I was "dirt poor."

I’m working very hard to change my circumstances. As you can imagine, I don’t come from a wealthy family. But experiences like this make me wonder if I shouldn’t even date until I’ve "made it."

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.