Negativity in this server

I’ve been reading a lot of the posts in here, and i gotta say there is a ton of negativity in this community. I don’t know if it’s just a reddit thing or a poly thing in general, but more times than not the “advice” i see being given here is like “give up, dump them, you’re not doing it right, they’re an ass blah blah blah” and that’s coming from multiple people in multiple threads, even when the OP is like “i’m happy things are great”.

I get that being poly is hard work, and not for everyone, and that it takes time and experience to build healthy poly relationships… but y’alls. What the heck?

Anyone have any suggestions for a more positive and supportive place to learn and connect to other poly people? Cause so far this ain’t it…