Recent post about male loneliness, my 2 cents about being a guy playing Automata

Hey folks, I recently came across a post that asks if the game is a cure or more trouble for male loneliness. I wanted to give my 2 cents about this issue. I'm in my mid-30s and I don't like to admit it. But when I play video games, especially addictive ones ... be it for the lore, be it for the thirst trap, or anything else, I feel like nowadays I'm robbing myself of the family I could have had.

There are a few folks who realized that this virtual-character worshipping and whatnot makes it worse for male loneliness because they are not real. Nier characters will never be real. 2B will never be real. A2 will never be real. Commander White will never be real. Some of you who realize this, first of all, I want to give a massive kudos for the acceptance and level of self-awareness you have now. I urge you to remember this and inspire others to pursue healthier habits than worship "2B's ass".

It's really easy to fall into this thirst trap if you're not validated much or loved as a kid. If you're a man looking for love or a partner, you should go out and touch grass after finishing the game. Keep trying to socialize and just have a social circle. I say this, because I feel like I ruined my social life as a kid, and I was always the weird one. I used to game from Friday 8 pm till 5 am on Saturdays, thinking, I don't need anyone. I think I was always the awkward kid who didn't realize what he missed out on during school days and uni days. When I could have built a better, stronger foundation and a network of people I can rely on to be there for me. And accept other people, regardless of the differences we have between us. I may have found a little bit of security and picked up on social skills through doing activities together.

In my earlier years, I've always loved doing karate and still enjoy the occasional lessons in Japanese Martial Arts and gi-less Jiu-Jitsu. But I don't do it anymore since my should injury. I loved drawing, painting, working with colors, and music production. I'm a very sensitive type and could have joined some classes instead of staying indoors. For most of my life, I've isolated myself, and every once in a while I get that dreaded fear of missing out on meeting a beautiful girl and possibly building a life together if we were right for one another. Sometimes I spasm alone in my room from the dreaded thought of dying alone while my soul tries to leave my body.

I may be picky with my game selection now. Because after my exposure to so many addictive PC games in my younger years, I'm a lot more susceptible to becoming addicted to something again. Especially if it's a Waifu game.

Today I have ... just one request from you all, none of you ever have to do anything I ask. So I just wish that you could please be kinder to yourself and go out for a 15 min walk, or journal your thoughts. Write down where these feelings of emptiness and thirst come from. Why are you thirsty? Is it a healthy amount? Are these long-term Waifu games impacting your future and your future unborn children? It is actually ok to play games like Nier, but how do you personally define a balance?

Reference:

https://www.reddit.com/r/nier/comments/1jf35u6/is_this_the_cure_to_male_loneliness_and_troubles/