Need advice, help, feedback. Trigger warning for potentially offensive content.

I'm in a challenging situation, and I'm not sure what to do. I'm hopeful that someone will have a good tip. Please be sensitive to me with your comments. I'm feeling very saddened by this situation.

I'm a musician. I play mostly at an open mic community.

Recently, an employee at a venue (bartender) started flirting with me. We exchanged phone numbers and texted for maybe a week or so.

The employee sent me an unsolicited nude photo, and asked that I do the same. I didn't, but I felt kind of pressured. This person said I was being prudish. The pressure sort of escalated, but I just didn't feel comfortable sharing any photos.

Pretty soon, I started feeling increasingly uncomfortable, and I asked if we could just be friends, when things escalated.

Immediately after that, the employee essentially ended our communication. They did send a couple of messages that seemed purposefully hurtful.

Now, when I go into the venue, that employee is overtly hostile to me. It's nothing that I can really describe. It's just sort of rude comments, eye rolling, or general ignoring. But it's obvious enough to other people that people have commented to me that they're aware of it. There's also some whispering and pointing when this person talks to other people. Maybe I'm just being paranoid about that last behavior though. I don't have any direct evidence that anything mean is being said about me, but it just feels that way. But again, the hostility is obvious enough that other people that I don't know very well are pointing it out.

I've just decided to stop going to that space, but I feel like I've lost a supportive community. And also, my main concern is that I'm worried about what's being said about me while I'm not there.

Has anyone dealt with this before? Are there any suggestions? I'm a little bit older and I'm not used to being in this position.

I'm sort of friendly with the host of the open mic event, but it feels inappropriate to share what I've been through, and I feel sort of ashamed.

One thing I should probably add is that when I spoke with this person initially, there was a lot of pejorative talk about other people that we knew in common, so I'm assuming that that's a behavior pattern that would probably extend to me. I just don't know what's being said, but I imagine that it might be stuff that's pretty hurtful.

I do feel guilty and like the situation is my fault because I was being initially flirtatious.