To leave or not to leave

I (23F) have been with my girlfriend (20F) for almost a year this month. Since we’ve dated i’ve been the only one to make plans to do things, normally the first to check up etc. We’ve never been intimate besides the usual kissing etc. We can go days without talking some times but when we see each other it’s like we’ve never been apart.

Some context is it’s both our first wlw relationship. We both identify as lesbian but have dated men previously for short term. I feel like we’re both scared to take it further intimately (at least I am).

But, it was my birthday last week and besides a cute “happy birthday” at midnight she’s made no plans to do anything for it, it kind of feels like a glorified friendship. Like, I do love this girl but I don’t know if i can continue just being the one making efforts? I don’t know whether to try and work through it or admit our romantic style might just not be compatible for an actual long term relationship.