Gutted over the betrayal

I’m not doing well. My husband of 6 years has been using chat rooms for the past 6+ months and has kept it hidden not only from me, but also his recovery groups, accountability partners and sponsor. He abandoned his community and guardrails and fell back into a deep, dark bender that only ended because he got caught. He came clean about his addiction to me mere days before our wedding 6 years ago, but I decided to stick by him. He did so much work, made progress, got help. I thought things were better.

Three days ago, I received text messages from someone threatening to blackmail him by sharing his activity with members of my family. They used my family members names, it was terrifying. Nothing came of it, but I am livid that this nightmare is spilling over to my family. I don’t deserve this but they CERTAINLY don’t deserve to be involved in this. The fact that they got my phone number and my family’s names terrifies and enrages me.

In all other regards, my husband is a good man. But he has a side of him that can’t break free. He’s smart, kind, loving, supportive, and my best friend. But what he’s done goes against everything inside of me. My heart breaks for him but I can’t allow myself to be hurt over and over again. I don’t know what to do. I guess I just feel traumatized, destroyed, and utterly sad over everything, and I wanted to share with people who understand.