Blocked after Lovebombing
I met someone during my holidays, and we really connected. Even after our short encounter, and despite the long distance between us, he would text me daily on Instagram and showed a lot of interest in me—both emotionally and physically. He was very sweet, affectionate, and seemed genuinely invested.
We had an incredibly sweet and long phone call, and he even told me how much he enjoyed it afterward and that we had a special connection. However, he didn’t follow through on repeating that. I tried to reschedule something that would work despite the seven-hour time difference and made an effort to maintain the connection.
But over time, despite all his initial pursuit, he started taking longer and longer to reply (even though he was posting stories and watching mine). Then he would get very intense with me again, only to disappear once more. He made big promises about how much he wanted to see me, how he couldn’t think about anything else, how he’d love to take me out on a real date, and even suggested we plan a trip together—things that felt so sincere at the time. Although he often shifted the conversation to the physical part.
After he began withdrawing again, I felt a bit insecure and shared how I felt. He responded by saying, "Hey, I was super busy with work and family stuff, just tired. Now I have some days off, so we can finally talk or chat right now." The next day, I texted him, asked some light questions to keep the conversation going and tried calling him plus leaving a message to let him know it was a spontaneous try to break the texting and that we could find another time if it didn’t work, for example the next morning (=midnight for him).
Then, out of nowhere, he blocked me on that specific morning without any explanation. This abrupt change left me completely confused and devastated. The suddenness and harshness of his actions have been really hard for me to process.
I’m struggling with self-doubt, questioning if I came across as too open, vulnerable, or not “mysterious” enough. I also feel deeply hurt because I genuinely liked him and now feel discarded—like I wasn’t even worth a proper explanation. I know the chances of us meeting again or sustaining anything “real” were slim, but I still never imagined things would end like this. Maybe I was just a fantasy for him, and things became too deep, I don’t know.
But yeah blocking feels very extreme and he could've at least text me something before doing that - this is not going to work for me, or whatever.
If anyone has been through something similar or can offer advice, I’d be so grateful for your thoughts.