I really don’t like Xaden

I see a lot of people fawning over Xaden and saying he’s their perfect book boyfriend and I really don’t get it… in my view he’s really unpleasant and pretty toxic. He goes on about how all he cares about is Violet and how he’d literally kill anyone for her, and yet all his friends seem to just trot along after him doing his bidding even though surely the ‘kill anyone for violet’ includes them? Violet says only she gets to see the gentle parts of him but that’s pretty shit for his so called friends - they only get grumpy ice cold steely Xaden, so why are they friends with him? And the way he just is all over her in public I think is gross. And he is just outrageously superior and arrogant with everyone, it’s insufferable. I really hope we get through most of book 4 without him because I love the world and the other characters and the story overall! But I just find him unpleasant and tedious. Anyone with me?!