I got ghosted!

Jan, went out with a guy from a dating app. A great first date (10/10, never had so much fun banter on any dates). We spent hours on the date and nothing felt forced or draining, the humour dynamic was just off the charts for us! He texted first after the date, and we kept the conversation going.

Fast forward to feb, the second date was equally fun and spent more time than the first. He even hinted at a third multiple times, saying he’d “plan better next time.” I kinda caught feelings so casually mentioned the “3 date rule” - after the third I would want to know his stand on where we were heading.

Post this we did maintain contact through texting. He very much matched my vibe, tone, humour in his replies. No one could tell he wasn’t interested looking at his texts! Two weeks go by no news of a third date, my friends did warn me that I just might be a backup, was holding the door just open to not let it fade away completely but not walking through it, and simply asked me to ghost him.

Stupid me felt we had a connection, and broke it to him in an amusing way about a third one. Days turned into a week, radio silence. I honestly didn’t think HE of all people would ghost me. So now I feel extremely stupid for saying it. I wanna unsend all the texts and just block him but it would be me indirectly telling him that I indeed was waiting for his response! So now it just feels embarrassing to think we could’ve been something while I was a nobody to him. I wasn’t seeing anyone else at the time too, so that just hurts more. And I genuinely liked this guy. This might be the first guy I didn’t talk anything negative about to my friends, was all defensive and I literally went 🤌 talking about him.

I mean it’s okay if he wasn’t interested in pursuing things with me, I respect him so i respect his decisions even if it doesn’t include me or isn’t in my favour. But maybe be an adult and just say, “hey I don’t see this work out so I wouldn’t want to put more time into this” No hard feelings.

Is this too much to ask for? What is up with all these men these days! Do they ever realise that okay this is a person putting their time, efforts and feelings into this so lemme at least address that? 0 accountability 0 communication.