Your bf is just some guy

You remember that viral thing that went around maybe a year or 2 ago with videos that girls posted saying, “Your boyfriend is just some guy you met…” Well, yeah, that’s how I’ve been feeling.

Hey, long time lurker and (hopefully) helpful commenter. I’ve been feeling this with my bf for quite some time, but I feel like it’s coming to a head and I’m scared.

I’ve been in a weird state of friendship love with my partner for a long time, but not IN love anymore. I’m not even attracted to him anymore. We have absolutely nothing in common. We never talk about anything important. I feel like he’s literally just some guy I live with. Also we’re growing in such different directions and not in a way where we fit well into each other’s lives. I just feel like I don’t even know who he is anymore and that he never even knew me, just the person he thought I was.

I feel like we should break up which would be easy if it hadn’t been so many years of trying, the fact that we live together, and the most important fact that we have a child together.

I hate this. I care about him a lot and it’s not like either of us is seeing anyone else, I think we’re just tapped out of tries. Or, at least, I am…

Not sure what I’m looking for here, maybe just a story of someone else who ended a long, complicated relationship and it ended well/okay and maybe how you went about that?