Fellow hopeless romantics, how are you managing it?

Especially if you have an SO. Tell me how you got there. I’m very sentimental and romanticize everything. Learning the harsh realities of love and dating and relationships has had me like 😞 I just want something real and earnest and well-intentioned. I always assume the best about guys I’m interested in because I project my own romantic sentiments. I want to be in love. I want to be with someone who’s in love with me, too, but I all I get is guys who lust after me but don’t appreciate and value me as a person. I’m not even sure that makes me a “hopeless romantic” but I’ve just never had something real. Where the person is as scared to fuck it up with me as I am with them and they look out for me/my feelings and are my best friend.