Ladies... why be with someone who you think is going to freak if they find out about your past?

Seriously, I don't understand it.

I've seen posts/comments of people encouraging women to hide their past because they are afraid of their partner's reaction. Now, granted, i get men have pasts, too, but women tend to be judged more harshly.

If you're afraid that your partner is going to react badly, why be with them in the first place?

I'm not saying you have to spill everything out, and you are due your privacy. But... again, if you think your partner is gonna freak if they find out, why be with them? Why not find someone who isn't gonna freak?

I guess I just don't understand why try and build a life with someone and simply hope they never find out.