Why is everyone in a rush?

So I’m 32 male. I’ve been dating for a while. Been on a lot of dates the past few years and I’ve noticed one constant. It’s like after 2-3 dates with someone if you’re not completely obsessed they freak out. I’ve had multiple women tell me something feels off. And many of them try to come back around after the next guy didn’t work out. I always tell them it’s because I like to move slow. I won’t even have sex until I’ve committed to the relationship which takes a few months for me. I like to be friends first then go from there. I’ve had enough toxic relationships in the past and know they all started out way to fast. I tell everyone this at the beginning. It’s so frustrating everybody is in a rush.