The “Most Desirable” vs Black Women and Asian Men

I’ve noticed how black women and Asian men (especially East Asian) get treated, when it comes to being considered beautiful or desired in dating. They’re often ranked as the least attractive and desirable, and I think it’s complete BS to divide people like that.

Last night, I was just scrolling through TikTok, and boom — I came across this woman who literally made me physically ache, like electricity flushing through my body. My god, she was stunning. It really made me think about how shallow and damaging those “attractiveness” stats are.

Obviously different people react to such stats in different ways, some are not going to care, and I can’t say I know how black women generally feel about this. I know I’d fucking hate to see my race and gender on there being like “you guys, the most people want you the least”.

And it’s not even just that, but stats about desirability, beauty, and standards in general, all of which stem from bias and count on bias. They do nothing but hurt people and erase the truth of individual beauty and attraction.

I guess the truth, as I see it, is that by categorically targeting groups with the intent to find a winner and loser, they back up a societal perception and narrative that divides and shames rather than recognize the value of individuality.

I wish this value of individuality was recognized over the stats, the media narratives, and the socially acceptable shaming of people who simply are as they come.