October Babies, How did you navigate holidays?

We're having a baby due mid-October and I'm wondering how others navigated the holidays. I want to join in for Thanksgiving and Christmas stuff, but I'm not sure what boundaries I should have. The baby will be so small, I don't like the idea of having others hold her just yet. Has anyone gone to family gatherings and not let anyone else hold the baby? I also worry about germs and overstimulation for the baby, but at the same time I do want to expose her family events and going places and being around people and stuff. I imagine that we will probably make each of the visits as brief as possible, but I know that some of the family members are sensitive to 'rules' and I'd like some advice on dealing with them. Thanks!

edit: we plan to enjoy the holidays and baby wear to avoid having her passed around a bunch! I've always been bad with saying no, so I think this will be a good opportunity to practice because I've always been better at advocating for others than myself~