Gifting makeup to a trans woman who doesn’t wear any (yet)? And is it appropriate to gift items that have the trans flags on them?
Hi there!
I’ll (28F) be moving into my boyfriends house soon and his trans daughter (20) lives with him.
Move in date and her birthday line up a few days apart. I want to surprise with her some gifts. We have never spoken before but she knows about my existence, of course.
She doesn’t have a good relationship with her mother. Bigot, did not approve of her transitioning. Would make fun of her for wanting/liking feminine things.
I’m very much a girly girl. Everything in my room bubblegum pink, acrylics, hair constantly in rollers, I do full beat glam makeup weekly, etc. Hyper fem, you get it.
Would it be okay to gift makeup to her? I don’t want my bf to ask her if she wants any because I want my gifts to be a surprise.
I was thinking maybe lipglosses, lip tints, mascara, eyeshadow palettes, makeup brushes, blush, and eyeliner. - Basically “beginner” makeup that she can play with. I figured a lip gloss that makes your lips lil sparkly with a touch of pink is better than full blown opaque lipstick?
The overthinking side of me is worried she might take it as an insult? Or I’m trying to tell her she needs it/this is what women wear? Would you take offense?
Second question, is it okay to purchase items that represent the trans flag? I’m talking about either a pin of her favorite animal but it’s blue/white/pink. Or a plushie, stickers, stationery, socks etc.
Feel free to be honest! I just want to make a good first impression with her. :(