What if they’re right?

What to do about the underlying worry that one day, these rogue sexual impulses we keep hearing about do in fact emerge and we’ve been misrepresenting this identity. All this time we’ve been assuring people who insist on invalidating us that YES, we are sure and NO, it’s not temporary or fake, we’re not just suppressed or stunted or late bloomers or anything like that because that’s the truth like it’s always been. Until it’s not. Cause we can’t always foresee change and the truth is anything could happen at any time. And it does.

And the reason this pertains here and people don’t tend to think this way with other sexualities is because our canvas has space (in some way) After all, didn’t allos used to be like aces at some point, though very young, so what if our timeline is just different from theirs??

I wouldn’t expect this from the aces who are very far into their life, so at what point/age is it safe to come out, to know that nothing is still developing, since the body is always doing so. It’s different with knowing who you’re attracted to because generally the romantic feelings are apparent by teen-hood, but not necessarily sexual.

*And yes I know “finding the right person” would still be demi, so I’m referring to full allo-type, falling right in with how they all keep saying we are “supposed to” be.

This would be not only alarming in not knowing how to trust your own judgment of yourself, but would be a massive setback on asexual awareness/interpretation. Super harmful to it.

Every time someone has a misunderstanding of asexuality such as, “I used to think I was ace until I stopped seeing jerks” (I’ve heard these kinds of stories where they are obviously misusing the term), it gets uncivilly launched against us, pumping even more disbelief into the ace reputation when we already struggle with that. So imagine if it actually happened how bad the repercussions would be, but this time within the community itself, trust would falter. We’d have built this whole identity for ourselves just to be like, actually never mind-

WHAT!?

-so that risk can make one hesitant about directly identifying themselves.

Is anyone wary of embracing the term “asexual” on themselves incase it somehow backfires like this? If not, when/how did you know you were set for sure?