Am I being too hard on my husband?

Hey all, I’m a stay at home mom to my 2.5 year old, 1.5 year old and am due with baby 3 next week. I am dealing with some serious resentment against my husband and wanted to get ya’lls take.

My husband works from home 9-5 Monday - Friday. He supports us 80% financially. I do have a part time job that I work when the kids go to bed.

Since I got pregnant and became a stay at home mom, my husband has never once offered to wake up with the kids in the morning, do a single bed time or nap time. He will sleep easily until 10-11 am on the weekends and wakes up at 8:55 am before work on the weekdays. Meanwhile, I’m up at 5-6 every day even during the first trimester and now super pregnant and not sleeping well. To make matters worse, my toddler is going through a serious sleep regression so I’m lucky to get 4-5 broken up hours a night while he easily gets 8-10 hours a night. I am just becoming so resentful that he doesn’t even offer to help out and sees how little sleep I’m getting.

My other main source of resentment, is my husband spends almost every night after work gaming from 5-8 and usually til midnight, but he completely misses seeing our kids and spending time with us. Of course this means I have to do dinner on my own, bath, story time and get no break at all from 5 am - til they go to bed at 8 pm.

On the weekends, he will participate in a group activity with us like taking them to the park. However, after that, it’s right back to his video game and I again assume the responsibility of the full time care giver.

I’m just feeling so unappreciated, unvalued, and like he truly doesn’t care for me. I can’t imagine how he can watch me be 39 weeks pregnant barely sleeping and be ok sleeping in every day or gaming every night. My patience is wearing thin but he does provide financially which I do obviously appreciate.

And yes, I’ve tried to talk to him and he says this is the trade off of not having a corporate job, there’s no days off and this is just the job of being a stay at home mom. He also justifies his behavior by saying he’s not “ out at the bars, he’s just gaming.” He also tries to blame me and says maybe if I was less naggy he would want to spend time with us instead of game. This is just very different than the example I saw growing up. I was lucky to have a very involved father who after he got home from work would take over with us and give my mom a break happily.

Talk me off this ledge please. Am I just being high maintenance and this is how it goes? Thanks!