What are peoples opinions on rules and punishments?

I understand rules for hygiene or things of keep a age regressor safe . I don’t understand rules like no swearing and others the feels weird like controlling ish ? I Do not understand punishments in the slightest especially when it involves hitting or spanking that sounds like straight up abuse to me.Any way I’m not trying to bash on anyone I just want others opinions way I can solidify a option of my own ! Love you guys!