signs of adhd in people who got diagnosed as adults

For women who got diagnosed later in life as adults, what are some signs of ADHD or traits that you noticed in yourself that made you finally see a doctor? I am very confused as I too have always noticed a lot of ADHD traits in myself but some traits like emotional dysregulation and obsession with certain things could also be due to some form of trauma due to tough childhood experiences. I am quite confused. Any help would be appreciated.