ACOTAR made me fall in love with the series, ACOMAF (and what's coming after) may well make me drop it.

I bought the first book on a lark, figuring that I should use my audible credits for SOMETHING, and I just fell in love with it. It felt like it awoke something in me, that childish love for fantasy that had me devouring books as a kid and has been absent in my adult life. While the cynical part of my mind had comments about X or Y, overall it was such a thrill ride, and the resolution made me so happy - not the least since it gave me hope for the future books.

Come around to ACOMAF, and it all goes out the window. The reset button on the relationship I got really invested in is slammed hard, Rhysand gets just kinda... egregiously buffed up as a perfect hero instead of a very interesting morally gray character, and Tamlin meanwhile gets made into an abuser. Like trauma or no, the shift felt jarring for me, but I kept reading. Then as she strolls through the magical Winter Wonderland with his cool and awesome friends I get that sure, she needed a break from him but I was hoping that she'd heal and set boundaries with Tamlin, not just... leave.

I then did a bad thing, I spoiled myself. I couldn't sleep last night and so I googled it because I had to know, I HAD to know, and ooooh boy. So not only does Freyre NOT get back together with Tamlin - which fair enough - she also infiltrates and destroys his court, leaving him to wander the ruins a broken man. Meanwhile he ends up just resurrecting Rhysand as well in the end of the third book, telling her to be happy, only for mr perfect Rhysand to then show up in the ruins of his abandoned halls and continue to torment him. What the fuck?

The silly wish-fulfilment was what made me love ACOTAR, but this shit that's coming after is just vicious. Even though there's other bits of this I'm really liking (The other courts were great, I love that her sisters are still involved too, her powers are cool, I like the setup with the cauldron), the cozy happiness the first book gave me is just gone. I don't know if I want to continue right now, it feels spiteful more than wondrous atm.

Like am I missing something here? I know wiki articles and discussions only get you so far, but please tell me there's some key heartwarming elements I'm missing here.

EDIT: Thank you all so much for your input, both those who agree with me and those who don't. Arguing with y'all here really helped me process what this series made me feel. You even somewhat convinced me regarding some of my complaints, even if my main points stand. (Still think Rhysand's 180 is hard to justify and still find Tamlin's situation in the latest two books to just not spark joy at all). Again thank you very much, everyone.