Wedding expectations are out of hand!

My fiancé and I are planning a beautiful 60 person wedding in a lovely historic town hall near the coast next summer. However, my fiancé's family is well off (like they own multiple properties in a HCOL area). WE are not well off - and we're mostly financially independent. We're asking his parents for a little help, but nothing over $3k. The rest of our $12k wedding will be paid for by us, paycheck by paycheck.

Still, people assume that because his parents have money, we HAVE to get married somewhere nice. When we told his sister where we getting married, she made a face and told us "you don't really want that". Then she recommended a castle instead. 😭

Then his parent's super wealthy friends told them that we COULDNT get married at the community hall and got all aggressive about it! Now they have beef with their friends!

I'm just floored by how entitled and snobby these people are. I'm spending every spare dime on this day so it really hurts when people talk it down. Even words like "rustic" "quaint" and "quirky" are hurtful. I know it's not the country club, but it's the best we can do. Even if we could afford better, we probably wouldn't change our plans.

Weddings used to be simple parties put on by the local community to celebrate love and union. Both my parents and my fiancé's parents had potluck weddings in community spaces. They were beautiful! What has happened to us as a society?! Modern wedding expectations are absolutely absurd.