MIL’s irrelevant traditions!
Hey folks,
It’s my first time posting here! So tomorrow is basoda (mainly celebrated in North India) where we eat stale food prepared the day before. The scientific reason behind celebrating is the transition from winters to summers and to avoid seasonal diseases.
Anyway, I don’t live in India and my MIL from last three years just told me to eat a piece of bread first thing in the morning and then I would make food and eat. But this year, she has given me an extensive list of things to do. For eg: I am supposed to prepare dishes ine day prior to Basoda, like poori, aloo sabzi, sweets, etc and perform a pooja. And i cannot cook the whole day (i can have cold things like a sandwich but not grilled or bhelpuri, etc.) but i cannot use the stove or microwave or air fryer (you get the gist). But but but, she has said i can have tea (because my MIL herself cannot live without tea, so i can MAKE tea,- i mean talk about double standards). It absolutely doesn’t make sense!!
On top of that she has told me to take bath with cold water. Where I live, it is still cold here and I have chronic sinusitis, and I already have cold medications that i am taking. So that’s that. When i told her this, she said i can just wash my face and hands on Basoda day. I mean she wants me to perform a pooja without taking bath?? Make it make sense!
After all this, I asked her why is she asking me to do all this after three years, when previously she never asked me to do all this, her response was that she will be making me do all these things from now on because later in life I will have to do all this! I am sooo pissed! I feel her kitty party friends have filled her ears to assert control on me. I mean she has no good reasoning to be doing this out of the blue. I am not saying that she is asking a lot out of me, but i am just pissed that she wants to start doing all this now to show dominance!?? I mean I guess I am ranting at this point. But i just want to understand whether I am wrong in being pissed with the sudden change in her attitude? And what can i do about it? I really want her to be more understanding towards me and my opinions!