Is my relationship over

Me [33f] My bf [34M] his best friend [30M] and my friend [38M](who ive known since 2011 only ever platonic) go out to a lounge for karaoke to celebrate. After the bar we head back to me and my boyfriends place. My bf needed a power nap so hes in the bedroom. Me his best friend and bob are watching spider man in the living room have the last of the beers. Bob is pounding them back and starts to get a little loud and aggressive. Im doing my best to de-escalate the living room situation. Then suddenly bob turns to me and says something about kissing me. I was taken a back a bit. But i let it go cause its late, hes drunk i dont want a big thing at 3 am.

He just kept going. Getting more aggressive ever time. Telling me im the perfect partner, im a good time. Asking me to leave my apartment and go to his place. Im getting super uncomfortable. Luxkily steve(bfbsf) notices and starts kinds stepping in. Bob got soo pissed at him for that. Telling him to get the fuck out of MY apartment i share with my boyfriend of 5 years. I hit the scared mark and i run into my bedroom to get bf. I woke him up and told him bob is making me uncomfortable be my man and go deal with this.

He gets up and shrinks behind steve. Mind you my man has 2/3 inches and a solid 50lbs on steve. Steve sees this and the look on my face so he went full alpha and made him get up get his stuff and get the fuck out. Even walked him down the stairs. While steve did that i snapped at bf asking him wtf was that. GIRL he uno reversed me so fucking hard. “What did you expect me to do in that situation? steve clearly had it” STEVE DOESNT FUCKING LIVE HERE. IM NOT STEVES GIRLFRIEND. He got pissed at me and stormed back to the bedroom. Steve comes back up and starts help me calm down. My anxiety (and its still like this) only word to describe it is haywire. So im finally calm and i go out to my balcony to have a smoke. I look down (21/2 hours later) AND bob IS CIRCLING MY BUILDING. I lost it and called 911. You know what the operator told me? Since hes not inside the building its backburned. Heres your event # call back if it escalates. Not even 3 minutes later theres banging at mu door. “My backpacks in there” No, it absolutely was not. i called them back so fast. Not impressed.

I told the call taker (who was a guy) i scared and he back burners it. THank god when i called back it was a girl and offered to stay on the line. Cops showed up pretty quick and dealt with the situation. So its like 6 am at this point. Bf gets up comes out of the bedroom bright eyed and bushy tailed “good morning baby” then steve kinda brings it up and bf goes oh yeah he tried calling me. I told him off.

Ya fucking right you did. You did NOTHING for me when i scared. Bf reads the room and gets all huffy and goes back to bed. I know im not sleeping after that. My nerves are shot. Steve who at this point is the only person i feel safe around offers to hang out with me for as long as i need. Hes got my back. My son was at grandmas last night so i could go out.

Steve (who knows my kid) stays till hes home, goes down to get him and bring him back up 4 flights of stairs (he done them atleast 6 times by now) then went home. Bf is still in bed at this point. (The fragile man has a hangover) so its me and my son hanging out in the living room together. Well because of the previous chain of events i no longer feel safe in my home. My safe place feels dirty and violated. Not to mention every little noice is making me jump. And im trying not to let on to my kid. Well of course hes picking up on it. Hes 11 hes very perceptive.

The few times bf surfaces he pretending everything is fine. Like nothing happed. Tried to hug me and kiss me like fuck right off. I have fucking trauma from past experiences. Fuck right off. And he has the fucking audacity to act offended and hurt. BRO the ONE time i needed/counted/expected you to man the fuck up and he one for me YOU WUSSIED THE FUCK OUT.

I am repulsed by you. You will never sexually touch me again. Im so fucking hurt. By my friend of 14 years and my bf. Weve been seeing eachother since 2018 fully committed relationship 2020. Live together, him and my son have such a special bond. This man has been my best friend since 2016. I dated this guy and it ended really scarily. Bf would get up early escort me to work then go to work himself and then escort me home. That guy made me feel so safe and seen and all that stuff. The man standing infront of me is a shell of that guy.

My son goes to his dads for the week monday(today) for the week so im going to my bsf house cause shes the only person i feel safe around. Im in school and because theres not the funding there was i pay for my courses out of pocket. I know i have to move. He fucked up and theres no coming back. Hes not a safe person. AND TOP IT ALL WITH A CHERRY this FUCKING man had the balls to wake me up at 5 am this morning to ask me for cab money this morning.
TL;DR is my boyfriend a gaslighting DARVO case? Should i try to save this? What should i do?