My wife and I thought we did everything right, but our daughter has turned into a person that both of us love but neither of us like.

I'm writing this with the knowledge that a lot of people are going to disagree with me and that's fine, I just need to get this off of my chest so I can breath again and not just be stuck with this rant.

My wife and I thought we did everything right - stable jobs, stable income, we bought a house, made sure that both of us were truly in it for the long haul before we had our daughter. When she came along, we were both overjoyed, and we tried our best to be good parents.

We obviously aren't perfect, we made our mistakes, but we tried. We tried not to make her into a spoiled child but we bought her plenty of toys and books and clothes. We spent time with her, we gave her a balanced diet, we hugged her and told her we loved her. Our daughter is a beautiful young woman now, but her sweetness is gone and now she has turned into a very manipulative and selfish person.

How? How? I've asked that question to myself every day for the past fifteen years and I don't have the answer. I have no idea. My wife and I did everything we could, did what we thought was right, and things still went bad. When our daughter was seven, we welcomed her little brother into the world, and we always made sure to give them equal attention, equal love, equal punishment, and they got along fine, and they still do.

Our daughter is loved. She has been raised in a stable home environment, given love and attention and stability, rules and boundaries. But yet, she had become someone I don't know. We've taken her to a therapist, there seems to be nothing wrong. She's not into drugs or drinking, her school work is pretty good, all things considered.

But she lies about everything, lied to my wife that she saw me kissing another woman when I did not and have never. She steals money, to the point of my wife and I had go get a safe. She refuses to do anything, she calls her mother a bitch, has shoved me and tried to punch me. She stole my wife's car to go joy riding with an unfamiliar boy. She screams and slams doors and breaks plates.

My wife and I have talked about sending our son to stay with extended family so he isn't around that.

We've tried to sit down with our daughter and talk, took her to therapy, told her that we love her and just want to help her. We have tried what seems to be everything, from one-week stays at summer camps she once loved to taking her away on a trip for one-on-one time to sitting down and asking her to please, please, please talk and she doesn't.

I am writing this next to my sleeping wife, who I adore and who adores me. I know my daughter and son are sleeping safely in their rooms. I am confused and feel lost, because I don't know where we went wrong, how we tried our absolute best and now we seem to be at rock bottom.