CP Culture feel like a double-edged sword

This is more of a reflection than a discussion post. I've been a BL fan for a while now, and while I enjoy the genre and have my favourite on-screen pairings (CPs), I can't fully embrace the concept of CP culture. It feels like a double-edged sword, especially for the actors involved.
As much as I love certain pairings, I don't care whether they're dating in real life—that's their personal life, and it's none of my business. I just hope they remain good friends, even if they eventually move on to different projects or part ways. But the whole CP culture, especially the over-the-top fanservice, tends to create unrealistic expectations from fans.
For the longest time, I thought K-pop idols were the kings and queens of fanservice, but BL actors have taken it to another level. While it can be fun and entertaining, it also fuels obsessive behaviour in the fandom. A lot of the hate certain actors or pairings receive stems from the very fanservice that's supposed to bring fans closer to them.
Then there's the issue of how CP culture can limit an actor’s growth. Acting is all about experimenting, but some fans can’t separate the actors from their on-screen characters. They get upset if an actor takes on a straight role or breaks out of the "pairing mould." And if one actor from the pairing starts getting better opportunities—be it bigger roles or better endorsements—their co-star often becomes the target of hate.
Ultimately, while CPs are a huge part of the BL experience, I wish fans would focus more on supporting the actors as individuals, rather than imposing unrealistic narratives on them. The fanservice may be fun to watch, but it’s not worth it if it comes at the cost of their careers, mental health, or friendships.
What do you think? Do you feel like CP culture is a blessing or a curse?