Cates TikTok live recap ðŸ«
Ok here's a recap of cates tik tok. I got in a couple minutes late but I'll start off where I picked up
She started with saying she thinks the visit 2 years ago where cate called Carly and nova sisters really made Teresa uncomfortable
The creator admitted cate sent all of the adoption paperwork to her
Cate said she was cut off finally last year for simply expressing her feelings on her social media
Cate doesn't understand why she keeps seeing people talking about her breaking boundaries. Wants to know what boundaries she broke. She said the only thing Teresa told her was not to read their text conversations on TV word for word that was it
Cate wanted to post pictures of nova and Carly, and teresa would allow it as long as it was only the back of her head
Cate doesn't understand why people get mad she's still sharing her adoption story but cate said the adoption story is for life
We, as viewers need to take 5 minutes to do our research and realize that adopted kids who have a relationship with their bio parents are more mentally stable than those that don't
Carly deserves to see that C&T never stopped trying to reach out
If cate knew Carly herself wanted to stop communication she would accept that
The creator said that adopted kids feel abandoned so cate is absolutely in the right for letting her know that cate hasn't given up
Creator asked if cate has seen studies proving the opposite and cate kind of hesitated and said nooo not really but I'm here just to have a voice and to educate her point of view
Said she's sick of seeing it's tylers fault they cut off communication. It was cate who shared her thoughts and ultimately got blocked
Tylers OF had no impact on them getting blocked bc she said their relationship was dwindling for years before this
She said if Carly ever did come to them, they would always have B&Ts back
They're ultimately upset they got cut off for no reason
If Teresa blatantly said she wanted to cut off contact strictly for Teresa's sake, like if it was strictly for Teresa's mental health care would want to have a sit down conversation with her and educate her on the statistics of keeping a relationship with the bio parents
Creator agrees and said that's the problem- that Teresa refuses to communicate
Cate denies that she's stalking them
Cate said Teresa has an obligation to communicate with them "I gave them a human"
They recently got the adoption files and B&T knew what they were getting into
They agreed to an open adoption which included letters, pictures, and yearly visits. The difference between an open and closed adoption is face to face
The story that they only had an open adoption for the first 5 years isn't accurate. They wanted a picture every year for the first 5 years. I still don't understand this whole idea
Originally wanted a closed adoption until she held Carly. Dawn said they could change it anytime and they did. The letter we see that dawn showed them in the restaurant was what they wrote when cate was still pregnant. Apparently there's another updated one that we don't see, but dawn didn't bring then
They just finally got their adoption files. When asked why now cate said she never felt like she needed it until now
Wants to see things change for birth parents
She doesn't hold anything against kim. Kim has repeatedly apologized for not getting them proper representation
Cate advises get your own lawyer
Said it's not fair to carly that she doesn't know why they're cut off
Said she knows Carly likes to be called Carly (there was speculation that how does cate even know Carly likes to be called carly)
Nova doesn't know yet that contact has been cut off. The other kids are too young to know Carly is their sister
Cate said if you're not involved in adoption keep your opinions to yourself
She just wants laws to be different for bio parents
Her podcast will address adoption but that's not all
Do with this what you will. This creator was literally kissing her ass the entire time