Inquiring About Competing Values and Prioritization - What is the best framing?

Lately, I have been attempting to inquire about competing values and how one prioritizes them. I've had some success asking about these competing values and their prioritization; however, I've also encountered what I perceive as defensiveness. I'm wondering what is the best way to frame this kind of inquiry.

Here are some examples of what I mean by competing values and prioritization:

Normative Claim: "The government should implement strict surveillance to ensure national security."

• Competing Values:
  • Prioritizing security/safety may lead one to support this claim.
  • Prioritizing freedom and privacy may lead one to oppose it.

Normative Claim: "Vaccination should be mandatory to protect public health."

• Competing Values:
  • Prioritizing health may lead one to support this claim.
  • Prioritizing autonomy may lead one to oppose it.

Normative Claim: "The government should ban unhealthy foods to protect public health."

• Competing Values:
  • Prioritizing protection of others may lead one to support this claim.
  • Prioritizing personal freedom may lead one to oppose it.

Any insights or suggestions on how to better frame these questions to minimize defensiveness would be greatly appreciated!