Authoritative VS Authoritarian

Just early morning musings with my coffee.

I think, for me as a sub anyway, softer bdsm means my Dom is strong, firm, competent, and in control. He is authoritative, not authoritarian if that makes sense.

He guides more than he demands. He is assertive and has high expectations while being kind and warm. He focuses on rewards, not punishments.

Would you agree? I know it's different for everyone so I am curious as to how this may or may not resonate with others here.