Member Question: how to get over being lied to?

One of our members is having a glitch posting to reddit for some reason and has asked that I post their question for them. Some edits were made for clarity:

"my pleasure dom wasn't one after all and he lied about being soft too. He just pretended to be soft to have scenes and got mad when I wouldn't and wanted to slow down. Now he's lying about me and stalking me. How am I supposed to trust doms if they act like this? How do you tell if they're lying about being soft? What am I suppose to do now?"