Feeling isolated at my new job.

I just started a new serving job at a restaurant/bar, and I’m already feeling like an outsider. It’s an all girl server team, and I get the vibe that they see me as a threat or just don’t like me. Its just a vibe that I am intruding, just not meant to be apart of it. They’re not exactly welcoming.

I am used to working with a lot of female servers. I really have never felt this excluded.. I know I am there for money, but we all know that serving is so much easier when you get along with your coworkers.

To make things worse, a friend who got me this job (a bartender) I found out that on a busy night, I struggled so much partly because she was hustling tables (making sure customers who were at tables went back to the bar instead of starting tabs in the right server’s section) That meant fewer tips and more stress for me, and I had no idea at the time. I had so much extra time that I was actually helping her grab things so she could bartend. I was complaining to her that it was because of the sections management set up, and she shrugs and says “Thats just how it is here :/“

I really want to keep this job because I need it, but it’s hard dealing with the cattiness and feeling like I’m being sabotaged. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you handle being the “new girl” in a tight-knit server group, especially when your so-called friend is part of the problem? Im such a smiley and happy person at work, they would never be able to tell they are bothering me.. I just wish I wasn’t so nice and expected it in return.