I just found out some disturbing info about my boyfriend

I (44F) am dating a 45 M. We have been together for about 4 months now though we have dated casually before, off and on for about three years. I love him so much and he loves me. He’s kind and loves me in a way I’ve never been loved before.

Anyways, a couple weeks ago he called me as he was on his way to my house and said he was getting pulled over by the cops and he had a bad feeling. He said he just came from the bar and had just two drinks. He hangs up as the officer is walking towards him. Cut to a few hours later and he’s in jail for refusing a breathalyzer, which is an automatic DUI in my state.

So I support him and he gets released the following day ROR somehow with a court date in two weeks. Okay fine. I look up our states court records as it’s all online, to try and get some info on his case, and I find a can of worms. I found out he got arrested because he had a warrant for multiple failures to appear for driving on a suspended license. He still had the suspended license when he was arrested this time for the DUI! This man knew about this and never said anything to me as he would occasionally drive my car with me and even my daughter in it. This made me very upset

But I’m continuing browsing and reading through his legal history, and I come across a case from 2009 against his daughter’s mom. Apparently my BF has major child support arrears. He’s still drawing it out today! I also found out he doesn’t file his taxes, and he says he never will. From reading the court filings, this is something the court has been requiring him to provide for years. I’m trying to get more info from him on this case but he keeps saying it’s his stress, not mine. Wtf?!?

So I have decided to break up with him over these findings. But I keep doubting myself. I know I have avoidant tendencies and am always looking for ways to subconsciously self sabotage I guess. Would anyone else see his hidden legal troubles as a major deal breaker? Am I supposed to stick by his side? I’m so confused because I do love him, but this feels like he’s way too irresponsible of an adult. And the not paying taxes thing is a whole other deal I know. No retirement benefits. We could never get married. Etc. please talk some sense into me!!!

Update: I definitely broke up with him right after I wrote this. He’s not taking it well of course, but I feel an enormous sense of relief. But thank you for giving me the push I needed to see outside my rose colored glasses. ✌🏼