Am I overreacting? Why do I think critically about the source of a problem instead of just the outcome?

Forgive me if I am wrong, but am I the only one worried about the way that people will post their relationship problems on the subreddit titled AIO, which usually refers to images and screenshots of conversations where people are arguing, and we're only ever hearing one side of the story and only given bits and pieces of the situation, and yet people are neither digging to find out any of the finer details of the situation, nor trying to see the bigger picture.

I don't like to look at people like they are just intrinsically bad or good so it worries me when I see the possibility that the posters of these threads are looking for validation for a victim mentality or that people who do not cope well or sustain relationships well are being painted in such a light that they are assumed to be monsters. Sorry, I just don't believe in monsters. I believe there are hurt people who hurt people, sure. But I never assumed that we know the whole story based on one person's account.

It makes me think about how juries work whenever they are being swayed by lawyers. And I am just seeing a lot of people who take sides prematurely and validate people who may be acting out or hiding how they too, are provoking people into the behavior displayed in the posts.

I think bad decisions aren't made in a vacuum and that these games aren't played alone. And I worry about the psychological consequences of getting feedback as if the situation has been properly analyzed when it's clearly not.

So I don't know. Maybe I am the bad guy for trying to justify "mean people" but there's something in me that will not accept that whoever is making the posts are also justified as completely innocent.

Either way, it's completely besides the point because anyone who involves themselves in situations where there are insults being thrown or behavior being negative, that the relationship is most likely a toxic one and should be ended. Maybe I'm the only one who thinks that, if a relationship is trying to be saved, then there's a lot more to think about and a lot more history to dig up on both parties, to discover where the mistakes began and how to possibly correct them for the sake of this relationship or future relationships.

Let me know what you think. And don't worry I can take a hit.